Friday, December 12, 2008

Bad mom

Today was the day that I got to help out in Kate's classroom. It was really fun. I got to see my old buddies from the Halloween party, help kids make gingerbread houses, take pictures, and visit.
Kate didn't really want my decorating advice, but I have no artistic skills so I left her be.
The kids finished by 2pm. I thought it would last until school got out. They got to take an extended recess, but when Kate asked if I would come outside I passed. I wasn't prepared to be outside for awhile. I did say 'maybe' to appease her. That was a big mistake.
After about 10 minutes of visiting, I decided to go. Brady was due to eat, I was starving and getting shaky from it, and I honestly didn't think Kate cared whether I was there or not. So I went home, fed Brady, had a snack, and visited with Olivia and my mom.
Then Kate's teacher called and told me that Kate was really upset. She was sobbing that I left her without saying goodbye. She expected me to come outside. She went back to get me and I was gone. Her little heart was broken. I explained to Kate why I left and apologized many times. After that I sort of blew it off.
It wasn't until later when another parent/friend and then the teacher called to see how she was doing. Kate was quite a wreck I guess. It dawned on me then that this was her special time with me. I left her for Brady. She felt abandoned. I told her that I didn't think she cared that I was there, but she said, "But mommy you said you would stay, and you didn't. I wouldn't have asked you to come if I didn't want you there."
I learned my lesson. If this scenario should present itself to you, just stick around.


Melissa said...

Dually noted, you are quite the opposite of a "Bad mom" but it still stings when one of your children has hurt feelings. With Anthony it seems to happen when I least expect it. If only we had glass balls to look into to predict the future, motherhood would be alot easier.

Melissa said...

By the way not to have Brady rain on Kate's post but isn't it time change your blog name to TBRKOB? Can you change the name?

ABCDH said...

Bonnie, you've got a full life, in every way. Sick kids, nursing baby, vomiting and snow storms. Can you say massage???